If I'm not mistaken, this "shock" has a name, and it's one that I've heard all of my life growing up but never truly believed in. I'm experiencing culture shock, you see, and while that may not seem like a surprise, it's surprising to me because it's something I've always firmly believed myself to be immune to. "I can go right back and fit right in," I told myself. "Things will feel totally normal. I'll slide right into the USA, straight into that spot that's been waiting for me all these years, and I'll pick things up right where I left off. It'll be the most natural thing in the world."
How wrong I was. I should have been smarter than that, and if I do say so myself, I am smarter than that! I, simply and truly, am not an American teen. I'm a teenager, born in the USA, who has lived literally 78% of his life in Latin America. By that reasoning, I'm more Latin than I am American! I'm starting to realize this more than ever lately as I try to get out, socialize, be a part of the American culture again. You see, there's a common illustration about third-world kids involving blue and yellow clay. As kids raised in two or more different cultures, we've got a little bit of blue and a little bit of yellow. The result is a clay that is neither blue nor yellow, but green. We've got a little bit of both, meaning that while we can adapt to multiple cultures, we fit into none of them perfectly.
The problem is, there are times where I just want to be one or the other. And there's no better way to be reminded that you're green than to go out with a bunch of blue people. I'm usually embracive of my green-ness! In fact, I'm usually proud of it! There are times (such as when I wrote my very first blog post) when I just wanna' shout it from the rooftops! "I'm GREEEEEN!!!!! :D" (Smiley included for visual imagery.)
But, to be honest, there are times when I just wanna' take a bunch of that blue clay and smear it all over the surface of my green, cover it all up, not let anybody see it, and just have them believe that I'm content to be blue, just like them. I'm still green inside, but you wouldn't know it at first glance.
It's not that I don't like my green self. It's the fact that I like to fit in. It's that I like to have it all figured out. I don't like the awkward transition phase of moving. I don't like culture shock. A lot of the time, I just don't like feeling different.
It's that transitions stink, and they're hard. And it's that sometimes I struggle with feeling like I don't fit in, like I'll always be different from my friends. Yes, sometimes I struggle to remember God's goodness—that I am His handiwork, and that He's been in absolute control of my upbringing form Day1!— and loose myself in negativity.
But then again, I'm not one to dwell on the negatives!
That's why when people ask me how I'm doing, I say "I'm excellent!" I say it because it's the truth! Even on my worst day it's not hard at all to see that I'm incredibly blessed! I couldn't count all my blessings if I had thirty hands! As I stop and think, there's hardly a negative light to shed on my current scenario!
For one, my transition isn't that hard. There are way harder transitions than re-adjusting to a life of total comfort and luxury! Moreover, I'm not jumping into a new culture, but re-learning an old one—one that I already know how to be a part of. Another plus?! I've already got friends (however "blue" they might be!) who love me and who will be a vital part of my transitioning back in to the United States! I've also got ALL of my college paid for in full and I've very likely got a job on-campus for the first year.
Then there's the advantages to just having been an MK! I've got a broader worldview than most people my age, just from having lived overseas most of my life. I've seen God take care of us every single day overseas—and every single day since we've been back. I've seen Him provide us with cars, houses, and food for every single meal, no matter where we live. I also speak two languages! Even when I go looking for a serious job, I can aim higher than most. Every time God has called us to a place, He has been more than faithful. He's shown us infinite grace, and He's not about to stop caring for us now.
All that to say, sometimes I struggle, but if I ever feel different, I never feel like an outcast. If anything, I feel loved and blessed! So why am I complaining about being green? Green is awesome. And you know what? Everything's gonna' be just fine. :o)
"Search me, o God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts."
Psalm 139:23
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? ...And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin... If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."
Matthew 6:25, 28-33